‘Morals’ and the city

Recently the police actually deemed it OK for couples to spend time together in public as long as they behave ‘decently’. A local actress speaks about pre-marital sex being OK and evokes a storm of protest, including a court case. In most other cities, married couples feel comfortable being affectionate with each other in public, but that’s a no-no in Chennai. What gives? The most ridiculous form of hypocrisy, I suspect. Consider this: This is the city whose chief minister has two wives; where many wealthy business people have a ‘chinna veedu’; where the most amount of extra-marital sex takes place according to national research by a leading magazine; and whose citizens behave very differently when in foreign countries. So why do we hold on to so called ‘morals’ which, in fact, actually detract from a healthy relationship between young men and women in most schools and colleges? When will this self imposed restriction end?

9 Comments so far

  1. tsk tsk (unregistered) on September 23rd, 2007 @ 10:47 pm


    Well superficial conservatism, the politics of vindication and hypocrasy are long associated with Chennai. This is coming from a chennaite himself.

    Some examples are
    – i dont see a reason why something as little as having a beer in a restraunt is restricted?
    – the antagonism against someone that speaks any other language other than tamil is so damn hyped
    – the removal of maran from office
    – the crackdown on couples holding hands
    – some tamil magazine going into a nightclub and asking if this was our culture?

    All i can say is that, since we are democracy, the conservatives need to live with the liberals. We cannot impose our views on each other. We need to coexist. However, Chennai isnt as cosmopolitan as other cities, its politics is very parochial, its work culture us extremely parochial and hence people are very resistant to change, atleast superficially.

  2. NAMS (unregistered) on September 24th, 2007 @ 11:03 am

    Hi All,
    I am a long time reader of chennai metro blogs…
    to my surprise, the quality of chennai metroblogs seems to be on decline day by day…there are so many posts not worthy of reading..including the above one….the same matter can be posted in an argumentative and informative way but the authors lack the correct writing spirit in most of the blogs as seen in the above one…

    May the chennai met blog come as healthy as others..

  3. Dhans (unregistered) on September 24th, 2007 @ 5:20 pm


    Don’t put some crap data, do some research before publishing here… or at least leave out some link to prove your facts

    >> the most amount of extra-marital sex takes place according to national research by a leading magazine;

    as i belong to a research group, i know the fact that this statement is not true. can u publish the link to that “LEADING MAGAZINE” or as picture if you can scan that page

  4. Dhans (unregistered) on September 24th, 2007 @ 5:26 pm

    >> whose citizens behave very differently when in foreign countries

    This is another crap. the fact is chennai ppl dont mingle with north obviously due to cultural differences that doesnt mean they behave differently.

    who is conservative… one who is living on is own way or ppl who is complaining about those?

    is you feel u have ever rite to kiss or behave indecent in public place, then speak openly in public or even file a PIL and argue in the court.

  5. Dhans (unregistered) on September 24th, 2007 @ 5:30 pm

    @NAMS……….. i second you

  6. Nilu (unregistered) on September 25th, 2007 @ 2:37 am


    Since this is a Metblog and not your personal blog, the comment policy can’t be your whim. If you insist it is, I encourage you to state that.

    If it isn’t, I’d like to know which part of my comment transgressed the comment policy. It was on this topic and without any abusive language. In fact, the one time I called your post idiotic, I went ahead and explained why I did so.

    So, if you don’t mind, please let the people of the city know why the blog that supposedly represents them, and in their opinion is illogical, does not let them state why it is so.

  7. V.Varadarajan (unregistered) on September 26th, 2007 @ 6:38 pm

    I notice several postings here that are quite relevant and begs action. I request all of you to join karmayog-chennai@yahoogroups.com and take steps at grass root level to change the city and tamilnadu for the better. Every small step helps besides discussion.

  8. Rahul (unregistered) on September 27th, 2007 @ 4:39 pm

    India is a land of hypocrites. Here we can piss in public, but can’t kiss our loved ones in public.

    Pissing and shiting public is fine here, but not kissing even in cheeks.

  9. ramki830 (unregistered) on September 29th, 2007 @ 10:04 pm

    All that I can say is – Let us have morals and some basic public behavioural norms in good of entire society. But, let these morals and public behavioural norms should apply to everyone i.e EVERYONE, STARTING FROM THE TOP, SHOULD FOLLOW THESE CODE OF CONDUCT. I dont think that is happening here… are the social and political elite behaving in the right way ? Kannada Prasad, Dr.Prakash, Padma…… why were these cases hushed up ?

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